“I dey tell you now, but e dey sound like joke.
Until you go enter inside come dey say “had I known.””
When Potters, a colleague and friend from the office who was supposed to be among my grooms men (men in suit), said those words to me, I first laughed.
I thought it was one of his usual jokes.
But when I saw the seriousness in Potters’ eyes, I quickly went from laughter to a straight face, leaned forward and looked deep into his face to see if he was pulling my legs or something.
But, Nope!
His face was still straight.
Home boy was dead serious.
Chills immediately ran down my spine.
Here was a father of two beautiful kids who I thought was having the best marriage ever giving out a silent cry to me to be careful about what I was about to step into.
That very moment, my mind raced to Aminu’s experience (a very good friend).
How Aminu's wife started flirting with a Yahoo boy ex boyfriend of hers barely two months into their marriage.
To make things even worse, while playing those silly games, this woman was pregnant with their first child!
Are you thinking what I’m thinking?
How am I sure Aminu was the actual father of that child!
What about Mr Frank?
Whose marriage broke up after a long, nasty, embarrassing fight that smeared his reputation at his workplace.
And then my mind traveled further to Pastor Chris (yes, Oyakhilome's) saga.
A solid man of God and role model to millions and millions of Christian faithfuls around the world.
Yet, his wife filed for divorce!
The fear in me grew deeper.
I could feel a knot in my stomach.
My heart started beating like a Navy primary school drum during an early morning parade.
Sweat from nowhere started trickling down my neck.
Should I actually still go ahead and get married?
Is it worth it?
Looking back at that very night 7 years today, getting married to my wife was the best decision I ever made!
Because of my wife's support, I have grown by leaps and bounds --- both financially and otherwise.
In contrast to 85% of marriages I’m seeing that are crashing left and right, I am 10x a better and happier man — thanks to my wife.
And my case is not different because I’m special or anything like that.
NO, the success and happiness in my marriage is not also down to dumb luck.
What is the secret?
It’s because I vigorously prepared my mind (your strongest weapon) before going ahead to say “I do”.
I did that my reading, listening to, and digging deep into the experiences of men with failed marriages.
By x-raying the happenings in their failed marriages, I was able to pick critical lessons.
I basically had the “expo” of a successful marriage handed over to me.
And with that “expo” I knew obstacles to avoid WAY ahead of time.
I knew exact traits to look out for in the woman I wanted to marry.
I knew what signs were a screaming signal to run for dear life if I saw them in my wife to be.
It’s like reading past question papers before stepping into an exam hall.
Scratch that.
It’s like walking with the lecturer’s marking scheme into the exam hall and copying your answers directly from the source.
Can you picture yourself failing that type of exam?
Definitely not!
The exact cheat code (a tiny word document) I used to cross examine the woman in my life and make sure I was not stepping into a dangerous lifelong trap.
I'm talking about the cheat code that practically told me the exact things to do or avoid BEFORE and AFTER getting into my marriage to have 100% happiness and peace of mind.
This cheat code I’m talking about is actually 3 short true-life stories of men like you and me who struggled and crashed in their marriages.
At the end of each story, I point out the mistakes the men made.
I also tell you what they should have done differently (what YOU should do) to avoid such experiences when you get married.
By the time you are done reading these short stories and lessons, you will be armed with the knowledge and “tools” you need to thoroughly screen any woman you come across before making any lifelong commitments.
And before I forget, this is for you even if:
You have a woman in your life who you’re dating and about to propose or get married to…
Or, you’re yet to get into any serious relationship. You are as single as the letter "I"
The secrets within this word document will teach you how to navigate both situations and save yourself a lot of emotional stress in the near future.
Enough talks.
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